Happiness – “the state of being happy” is arguably a state that most of us want to be in as much as possible. But are we? How often would you say you are truly feeling HAPPINESS? Happiness breeds joy, fulfillment, peace and success. I don’t care how much money you make. If you don’t have a happy life, you don’t have a successful life. In fact, the happier you feel, the more success you will attract. Happiness increases your level of energy, productivity and motivation. It helps to clear your mind, define your vision and connect with others in a meaningful way.
When I quit my career to venture into entrepreneurship, I wasn’t expecting were many of the comments I received from co-workers as I was leaving. So many people came to congratulate me on having the courage to leave and follow my dream. “I like it here, but I don’t LOVE it” was a comment made to me by a fellow employee in a senior leadership position. People were whispering to me that they wish they could do what they wanted as well. I left wondering how many of them were actually happy? And how I couldn’t stand the thought of people just going through the motions to get through each day, in a career that doesn’t feed their soul.
As a nutritionist, I thought my dream was to help people optimize their digestion, lose weight, have more energy and improve their life. What I started to realize very early on, was that the level of success for my clients was greatly tied to how happy they were – or – what their idea of happiness was. I very soon discovered that I could hand out all the meal plans I wanted, and talk about nutrition all day – BUT – if my clients weren’t working on their happiness – they weren’t getting results. We had to dig deeper. When happiness arrived, so did the results.
So, what makes you happy? Identify what makes you happiest. Is it playing with your kids, reading your favorite book, going on a vacation, speaking gigs, networking, or selling out your own online coaching programs? Write out a list of all the things that bring joy to your life. Now, take a look at the list. Allow yourself to be aware of the things you love that you aren’t doing often enough. Make a plan to add more happiness into your life. Take the actions below into consideration and start elevating your happiness and success TODAY.
6 Steps to Happy
LOVE – Bring more love into your life. Love for yourself – your health – what you do – and who you interact with. Love your body enough to nourish it with the foods that will enhance your energy and health. Love yourself enough to stay away from people and conversations that bring you down. Love what you do for a living..love how you spend your day. Having an underlying theme of love on your mind with each task you complete throughout the day makes it a more enjoyable one and leaves you with a deeper sense of peace.
LET GO – So many of us worry about things we have absolutely no control over. When you catch yourself worrying about a situation, ask yourself 3 questions. 1. Is this something I have control over? 2. Will this matter to me 5 years from now? 3. Is this worth holding on to? Do the same with anger, hurt, resentment, or any other negative thoughts or feelings that you may have. Make the choice to let them go. You don’t have time to hold on, and this is getting in the way of your happy.
MINIMIZE – You may have heard of a relatively new trend called Minimalism. It is a tool designed to assist you in feeling more freedom – which leads to what? HAPPINESS. This will vary from person to person, but getting rid of things you don’t need can actually decrease your level of overwhelm. In the book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, Marie Kondo teaches to look at each individual item, whether clothing, books, papers, belongings, and ask yourself if they bring you joy. If they don’t, they are out! I found an incredible sense of peace simply by going through the home, taking down extra pictures that were hanging, donating clothes and items, and having a virtual garage sale. Clutter in the home can affect us like clutter of the mind. Minimize the amount of belonging you have and get closer to happiness.
GIVE – Give more to others without the expectation of anything in return. This doesn’t have to be financial, however it can if you like. Create a monthly plan to give to your favorite charity. Give time of yourself to volunteer for a cause that is meaningful to you. Make cookies for your neighbor. Make the time to call up a friend just to let them know how much they mean to you. Not only will you make their day, but you will make yours as well.
GRATITUDE – Practice giving thanks for everything that you already have, rather than focusing on what you may not have at the moment. It can be as simple as being grateful for the electronic device that is allowing you to read this article right now. Thankful for the food that you eat, the relationships that you have, the hobbies that you enjoy doing. Set an alarm in your phone with a daily reminder to think of what you are grateful for. Think it to yourself in a prayer, write it out in a journal, or even share it with someone you love. The law of attraction works very well here. When you focus on what you are grateful for, the universe, or God as I prefer to say, will reward you with even more experiences that you will be grateful for.
CHOOSE HAPPY – The most important step! Make the conscious choice to choose happiness every single day. Read books or listen to podcasts that will make you feel good. Choose to find the opportunity for a positive lesson in every experience. Choose to have an open mind to the ideas of others. Choose how you will react in every situation. You get to choose how you feel. No one else has that power over you.